I've been feeling a little lackluster recently--perhaps you have noticed?
Although I love the Near Solstice Shawl (also known as the Birddancing Shawl) with a quiet little passion, it remains what it was destined to be: purely and consistently white. Despite the emergence of the dancing bird feet in the pattern, it remains (as I just said) white. I can hardly come to you readers with a regular update ("I just finished another 2,104 stitches! They are all white lace, scrunched up on the needles!!!").
And although I had set the goal of clearing out the absurdly large pile of partially finished socks found in little heaps everywhere in the house and car, and although this is a wonderfully cleansing, dutiful, and puritanically upright goal, it is hardly the thing to write a song of life to. ("I've completed two of the pairs of socks! Move forward 10 needles. I found another half-finished pair in the closet--move back 5 needles. I've gotten to the end of the ball and have 3 inches of toe to finish. Stab yourself with one of the dpn's.") See what I mean? Not to mention the fact that I have a Sock Fairy who delights in starting socks while I'm distracted.
Last week, I realized I was in a true danger zone: I bought a copy of Martha Stewart Living!
Now don't get me wrong, I have nothing against Martha Stewart or her beautifully photographed magazine.
But when I buy one, what I am really buying into is a belief that--if I could only get my world put into shape, I would feel wonderful. Things would get easier; answers would come quickly, with a certainty I rarely feel; I would never be judged as wanting in any way.
The sense that there is One True Answer for any given problem crashed upon me like a tidal wave earlier this month when my car was totalled. Trying to figure out how best to add a new car to our bi-state family nearly pulled me out into the rip tide (to carry this little analogy further). Buy in Seattle? Buy in Berkeley? New car? Used car? What kind of car? What can we afford? What should we pay the seller? Oh my gosh, were we patsies? Did we get a good deal that we could sleep well about? And how to get the car where it should be, whether Berkeley or Seattle?
I'm still second-guessing every single decision we made, and that kind of shame over the sense of not living up to whatever is coloring my world.
What should a Feral Knitter do when she starts to look for certainties?
Dance with color, that's what I'm thinking. Feral knitting is all about the recognition that there is no one right answer--there are millions of choices, and the process is messy and non-linear, and despite color wheels and color theories and books galore, the only judge of "rightness" is the knitter's own delight.
Recent Comments